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03 May 2026

The Submissive Wife [1 Peter 3:1-6]

Overview

Wives are commanded to subject themselves to their husbands as an expression of their priesthood (2:9). 1. PRINCIPLE. Wives submit as part of God’s created order, doing so for the Lord’s sake and in reverence to Him—not by nagging, belittling, or “mothering” their husbands, but by appreciating, praying for, and supporting them. 2. PRIORITY. Wives should prize inner, soul-deep beauty over outward appearance, because it is imperishable, precious to God, and a powerful witness that can draw a husband to the Lord. 3. PATTERN. Holy women like Sarah submitted to their husbands because their hope was in God, not man. Trusting Him to make all things right in His time, they found freedom from the “what ifs” that threaten quiet confidence in submission.

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Sermon Transcript

Pastor Jason discusses the biblical concept of submission in marriage, focusing on 1 Peter 3:1-6, which instructs wives to be submissive to their husbands. He emphasizes that submission is not based on the husband's superiority but on God's order, as established in Genesis. Submission should be gentle, quiet, and respectful, without nagging or belittling. It involves inner adorning with a gentle and quiet spirit, which is imperishable and precious in God's sight. This submission aims to influence the husband positively, even if he is not a believer, through virtuous conduct. The sermon encourages wives to hope in God and trust in His faithfulness, ultimately aiming to glorify God through their actions.

Submissive Wife: Introduction and Context

• Pastor Jason begins by discussing the topic of the submissive wife, referencing the engagement ring, wedding ring, and "suffer ring" in marriage.
• He explains that the role of the husband and wife is crucial for a successful marriage, emphasizing the importance of understanding these roles.
• Pastor Jason references First Peter, chapter three, verses one to six, and explains that Peter is elaborating on the various relationships where submission is required.

Biblical Submission and Its Importance

• Pastor Jason elaborates on the concept of biblical submission, stating that it is an expression of living rightly before the world.
• He emphasizes that the best way to glorify God is through the Church living rightly, and submission is a key characteristic of this.
• The discussion includes the importance of spiritual priesthood and how it is expressed through submission.
• Pastor Jason notes that there are six verses for the submissive wife and only one verse for the husband, indicating the focus on the wife's role.

Principles of Submission

• Pastor Jason explains the principle of wives submitting to their husbands, emphasizing that it is not based on the husband's superiority but on God's established order.
• He clarifies that submission does not mean being dumb or uninvolved, but rather supporting and obeying the husband without being adversarial.
• The principle of obedience ending at the doorstep of sin is discussed, ensuring that submission does not lead to sinful actions.
• Pastor Jason addresses a common question about suffering in silence, explaining that while suffering is part of the Christian life, it should not involve retaliation or danger.

Submission in Practice

• Pastor Jason discusses practical aspects of submission, such as not nagging or belittling the husband, and the importance of supporting and affirming him.
• He emphasizes that submission should not involve mothering the husband, but rather treating him as a partner and supporting him.
• The importance of inner adorning, such as cultivating a gentle and quiet spirit, is highlighted over external adornment.
• Pastor Jason explains that this inner adorning is imperishable and precious in God's sight, and it is also beneficial for the husband.

The Role of Hope in Submission

• Pastor Jason introduces the concept of hope as a key factor in cultivating a gentle and quiet spirit.
• He references the example of Sarah from the Bible, who addressed her husband as "Lord," showing her default position of submission.
• The discussion includes the importance of trusting in God rather than worrying about external factors, as this fuels a gentle and quiet spirit.
• Pastor Jason emphasizes that hope in God is the engine that navigates through hostility and persecution, leading to a virtuous and submissive life.

Impact of Submission on the Husband

• Pastor Jason explains that the submissive wife's conduct can influence the husband, even if he is not a believer, leading him to Christ without a word.
• He emphasizes that the wife's conduct should be virtuous and submissive, rather than nagging or belittling the husband.
• The discussion includes the importance of the wife's conduct in supporting and loving the husband, which can lead to his salvation.
• Pastor Jason references St. Augustine and Ruth Graham, highlighting the impact of a submissive and loving wife on her husband's faith.

Conclusion and Prayer

• Pastor Jason concludes by emphasizing the importance of hope in God and the inner adorning of a gentle and quiet spirit.
• He encourages the wives to trust in God and submit to their husbands, as this will lead to a harmonious and godly home.
• The discussion includes a prayer for the wives to have strength and fortitude in their submission, and for their homes to be blessed.
• Pastor Jason prays for the wives to be a positive influence on their husbands and for the church to live rightly before the world, glorifying God.